Best quotes

One giant step

The more conscious we are of this deep desire, the more we empower ourselves to make the necessary changes in our lives. That's why it means so much for you to stop picking on yourself; you're wasting at least half your energy, energy that could be much better used by doing what really matters to you. You are already more than good enough to make your contribution!

I've seen CEOs and top executives in large companies who think and act as if they were still waiting to be given permission to take the ball and run with it. Instead of making the changes they've been longing to make once they rose to a position of leadership and influence, they still hold back, afraid to take the lead they've earned.

question: are you ever going to be good enough? The answer is yes -- you already are!

What can you do?

Take responsibility for your greatness (yes, you!) so that your life isn't about becoming good enough; it's about finding ways to use your special gifts to make a difference. Appreciating yourself is the first step toward giving yourself permission to be who you are and making the contribution you're here to make.

Expose your thinking

New idea

Take a step back.

Being objective while you’re screaming can be difficult, so shut up. Stop the shouting, stop the accusations. They’re not helping. You will cause your partner to immediately feel defensive and predictably, start shouting back. No one says anything of real value while screaming, so while you’ve got your mouth shut, take a minute to think about what’s really bothering you. Is it the problem at hand, or is it the fact that you’ve argued about this problem one time too many? If that’s the case, stop arguing. Tell your mate you’re frustrated that the two of you can’t seem to reach a solution, and that you need a break. Then go for a walk, or do something active for a little while. The exercise will get your blood flowing and allow you to think more clearly about the solution you want, so you can end the argument once and for all.

Remember the goal.

A recurring argument often means a comprise hasn’t been made, not to everyone’s satisfaction. Pick a time to sit down with your partner, preferably when both of you are open and willing to talk. Ironically, for me this usually means right after we’ve had an argument, but most people like to talk at the end of the day, sometimes over a meal. Sit down and discuss the problem. Try not to let your feelings overwhelm you, but instead talk about what solution you would like to see. Then listen as your partner suggests their solution. If you made a compromise before, and you’re still arguing, it obviously has not worked. Discuss what went wrong the first time, keeping in mind that the objective is to find a solution that works for both of you.

Clear the table.

Once you’ve managed to come up with an agreeable compromise, lay the matter to rest. If that means talking out your anger, go ahead. Tell your partner what frustrated you originally about the problem, and why you felt you needed to examine the problem again. Listen as your partner tells you their feelings as well. Afterwards, clear the air by talking about any misunderstandings or frustrations that cropped up during your problem solving discussion. Then lay the issue to rest. Once you come up with a solution that works for both of you, the recurring argument shouldn’t come up anymore. Keeping an objective in mind, taking a step back, and agreeing to discuss, not argue, will allow you and your partner to stop rehashing the same problems over and over.

People often fixate on who's right, which distracts them from finding a solution."
- Benjamin Karney, co-director of the Relationship Institute at the University of California at Los Angeles

Innovate , dare to be different

If everybody else is doing it one way, there's a good chance you can find your niche by going in exactly the opposite direction. But be prepared for a lot of folks to wave you down and tell you you're headed the wrong way. I guess in all my years, what I heard more often than anything was: a town of less than 50,000 population cannot support a discount store for very long.“

 Effective Questions

Creativity requires an inquisitive mind. "Fresh, creative thoughts don't grow in the dry soil of mindless acceptance. Yet it is easy to go through your day without calling anything important into question." Effective learning questions can serve as a starting point for the assimilation of learning. Ask "why?" and "what if?" questions and develop "what-if" scenarios to discover new opportunities around you.

Find the Difference that Makes the Difference

If two situations or processes seem very similar but have different outcomes, it is important to look for any differences between them, and then to find out which of those differences is the key to the different outcome. Contrastive analysis is a tool that helps you to find out what differences make the difference and, thus, tells you where you need to take action. In contrastive analysis, you are contrasting similarities and differences between one situation and another to find the difference that is significant.

How to Succeed in Life:

1. Dare to be different.
2. Be passionate.
3. Be curious.
4. Be creative in everything you do.
5. Innovate.
6. Deconstruct the old, build something new.
7. Be the disruptive change in a boring industry.
8. Change the game.
9. Don't play by the rules.
10. Stand apart from the crowd.

"Even one single person can see something from several perspectives, depending on the moment, because life changes and everything is different. We don't have a single way of being, we have several - and just as every moment is different, every person in our lives is different, depending on the moment; just as life changes and we are part of it, life is part of us as well, and we have different perceptions depending on the state of our souls. You perceive life in one way when you think positively and in a different way when you think negatively. Now is the time to become aware, to remember that we are different and to avoid the reductionist thinking that says simply making a difference is enough. Difference is regarded from the perspective of those who now understand that, as a founding principle of the intention to build a better world, this isn't the difference as a concept relating to comparison, but difference as a conceptual basis to discover the uniqueness of every man."

"Think of yourself as being a many-roomed house, in which you can find resources, potential and fragments of your being, but your inner doors close more and more each passing day, pushed by the wind coming through from the outside. We don't want our doors to be locked because of the things that happen around us. We want to be ourselves, to be different, we don't want to be the way today's society teaches us to be, the way it almost makes us be. We want to have the courage to leave the doors to our heart open. We want to differ from stereotypes. We want to have beautiful, peaceful people around us, different people, not sad people who forget about themselves, who forget they exist, who ignore the fact that we only have one life, and that this life was given to us by the divinity with a precise purpose."

Self improvement

Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.” Steve Jobs

Certainly the most destructive vice if you like, that a person can have. More than pride, which is supposedly the number one of the cardinal sins - is self pity. Self pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred's a subset of self pity and not the other way around - ' It destroys everything around it, except itself '. 

Self pity will destroy relationships, it'll destroy anything that's good, it will fulfill all the prophecies it makes and leave only itself. And it's so simple to imagine that one is hard done by, and that things are unfair, and that one is underappreciated, and that if only one had had a chance at this, only one had had a chance at that, things would have gone better, you would be happier if only this, that one is unlucky. All those things. And some of them may well even be true. But, to pity oneself as a result of them is to do oneself an enormous disservice.

I think it's one of things we find unattractive about the american culture, a culture which I find mostly, extremely attractive, and I like americans and I love being in america. But, just occasionally there will be some example of the absolutely ravening self pity that they are capable of, and you see it in their talk shows. It's an appalling spectacle, and it's so self destructive. I almost once wanted to publish a self help book saying 'How To Be Happy by Stephen Fry : Guaranteed success'. And people buy this huge book and it's all blank pages, and the first page would just say - ' Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself - And you will be happy '. Use the rest of the book to write down your interesting thoughts and drawings, and that's what the book would be, and it would be true. And it sounds like 'Oh that's so simple', because it's not simple to stop feeling sorry for yourself, it's bloody hard. Because we do feel sorry for ourselves, it's what Genesis is all about.” 

― Stephen Fry

When you see a good person, think of becoming like her/him. When you see someone not so good, reflect on your own weak points.” 

How many a man has dated a new era in his life from the reading of a book.” 

The future of the mind

- How to play the cosmic and monopoly game
- Aligning the four energetic parts of who we are: body, mind, subconscious and soul
- Unleashing our full capacity as human beings
- The quantum laws that make us powerful
- The mythology of the Quantum Warrior
- The seven practices of a Quantum Warrior
- Appling new quantum techniques for success and happiness
- Experiencing a more empowered way of living the life we are meant to live
- Awakening more deeply to who we truly are
- Conscious Evolution and how our personal growth assists in this process

“I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” 

― Ernest Hemingway